When Pico Iyer decided to go to Kyoto and live in a monastery, he did so to learn about Zen Buddhism from the inside, to get to know Kyoto, one of the loveliest old cities in the world, and to find out something about Japanese culture today -- not the world of businessmen and production lines, but the traditional world of changing seasons and the silence of temples, of the images woven through literature, of the lunar Japan that still lives on behind the rising sun of geopolitical power.
All this he did. And then he met Sachiko.
Vivacious, attractive, thoroughly educated, speaking English enthusiastically if eccentrically, the wife of a Japanese "salaryman" who seldom left the office before 10 P.M., Sachiko was as conversant with tea ceremony and classical Japanese literature as with rock music, Goethe, and Vivaldi. With the lightness of touch that made Video Night in Kathmandu so captivating, Pico Iyer fashions from their relationship a marvelously ironic yet heartfelt book that is at once a portrait of cross-cultural infatuation -- and misunderstanding -- and a delightfully fresh way of seeing both the old Japan and the very new.
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Philippe Fowler
5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful look at modern Japan
Reviewed in Canada on 12 November 2014
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Enthralling. A wonderful look at modern Japan. The conflict between serene tradition and the insanity of modern life captivated me. A love story in many ways yet fresh and very touching. Pico Iyer and Peter Matthiessen are superb authors who write about what they deeply love. Sad, beautiful and haunting. A must-read.
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SEKI
5.0 out of 5 stars 男としては、読む価値あり
Reviewed in Japan on 18 May 2017
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全ての内容が、判るほどの英語力はないですが、毎日読んでいます。
我慢して読み進めても、ニュアンスは、感じ取れます。
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5.0 out of 5 stars Its like reading a dream
Reviewed in the United States on 30 September 2023
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This book is simply sublime. Pico Iyer has not only captured japan but done so in a manner whereby his carefully crafted use of words created in me a mindset very similar to a dreamscape. I drifted through the book feeling and seeing japan and this japanese lady he has become involved with in a way where she is learning from him as he is learning from her its as if black sees white for the first time and vice versa and beautifully done so that the dream unfolds as each learns more of the other and those insights on both sides are simply so fascinating I did not want this book to end. Fabulous. I know I shall read it again and again but I wonder if when I do it can create that same dreamscape over and over for me.
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Confused electrician
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in India on 9 July 2017
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Beautiful. Iyer finds his love in the most loveliest of all places, Kyoto.
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Barbara
5.0 out of 5 stars I will read more of his books
Reviewed in France on 23 October 2021
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Excellent description and analysis of Kyoto and Japan. Having been there twice, I really enjoyed it.
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Deepak
5.0 out of 5 stars One of my best authors
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 10 September 2014
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I picked up this book by Pico Iyer after having watched his TED Talk. This book was an absolute joy to read, and definitely makes it to my top 10 most loved books. It is a great read that helped me understand a little more about Japanese culture and the way of life. Pico's writing style is warm, descriptive and very entertaining.
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Ghaleeb Jeppie
1.0 out of 5 stars Disappointing
Reviewed in Japan on 24 September 2024
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The paper used for this book is of a cheap standard and should never have been allowed to be associated with your brand. I am not satisfied with the book but I have limited time to complete my assignment otherwise I would have returned the book.
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3.0 out of 5 stars Poetic Passages interspersed with Plain Passages
Reviewed in India on 17 May 2023
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This is more of a joint review of 2 of Pico Iyer's books that I've read. They all feature writing on Japan to a certain extent. I picked this writer & his books as I’m more interested in learning about Japan ,which both books feature prominently although I’m not particularly drawn to travel writing as a genre as such …
Book 1 -The Lady & The Monk
Book 2 -A Beginner's Guide To Japan (Observations & Provocations)
Regarding his writing style and work :
His prose is lyrical. Almost like poetry. That in itself makes reading his books an experience worth savouring.In addition , his works are full of penetrating insights: deeply psychological and profound. There's no doubt that he's not only a gifted writer but also a keen and attentive observer of human nature: with all its complexities and nuances.
However ,there are multiple pop cultural references to North American culture of the 90's and users unfamiliar with them,will find the book cumbersome to read at parts . I didn't enjoy this as much as the other book.
However ,if you’re someone interested in learning more of Japan then the books of Pico Iyer are an excellent start 👌🏽
Final Rating :
Book 1: 3.5/5 Stars
Book 2: 5/5 Stars
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Marco Antonio Abarca
4.0 out of 5 stars A Different Sort of Travel Book
Reviewed in the United States on 12 March 2007
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Most travel books follow a conventional path. An intrpedid traveller goes to an exotic locale and begins a journey from Point A to Point B. During the trip, the narrator describes the landscape and the intersting characters he meets along the way. The reader leaves the book feeling that they have a better understanding of some distant locale.
Pico Iyer's "The Lady and the Monk" is a very different type of travel book. First and foremost, Iyer goes to Kyoto for a year and never really leaves the city. His book is more of a sedentary tale that revolves around his romantic relationship with a 30 year old, married mother of two.
The emotional center of this book is about a Japanese woman's attempt to break out of the strict confines of a society that keeps her from realizing her dreams. This tale of rebellion and rebirth is not told by the woman but by her Anglo/Indian/American lover. His analysis and insights are interesting but they are by there very nature second hand. And yet the one area where Iyer is an expert, his own feelings, he is a bit coy. This is a very unusual traval narrative. It is interesting but not a classic.
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Dr. A
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 6 August 2015
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Interesting perspective on Japan and the Japanese
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A.Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars How does Pico Iyer write so well?
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 2 May 2004
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The Lady and the Monk is a book I cherish . It took me to a land I hadn't been to , let me walk with people I would never know, and introduced me to a life that I, as an armchair traveller yearned to lead . It also made me feel uniquely fond of Pico Iyer and his writing in a way that has remained undiminished since. I struggle for words because I feel like a 16-year old pop fan - ecstatic that I discovered this disarmingly charming yet real book . I have passed on the book to friends who have loved it as much as I have . Iyer excels in creating metaphors that are explored in more was than one, in showing us his own thoughts and yet walking away; in revealing himself as a person and drawing us to seek more as he turns elusive .
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Elrond Burrell
5.0 out of 5 stars Insight into Kyoto at a point in time
Reviewed in Canada on 25 July 2019
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Pico Iyer is delightful to read with a child-like joyful appreciation and engagement in the environment, places and people he finds himself around.
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Daniel Myers
5.0 out of 5 stars "O brave new world/ That has such people in't!"
Reviewed in the United States on 23 May 2007
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Any reviewer can find something wrong with a book, if s/he tries hard enough. And many have been quick to do so here. I suppose I could as well (e.g., by picking on Iyer for not going into the implications of the faux-Utopian society Japan has created). But I have absolutely no desire to do so. The book is so beautifully and deftly written, the romance so touching and piquant without falling into bathos, that it would, to me be similar to picking at the lovely haikus interspersed herein, stylistically complementing the lyrical writing.
Yes, as one reviewer has pointed out, it is more memoir than what is called "Travel Literature"-though the boundaries between the two have always seemed blurry to me at best.
This book will be enjoyed most by lovers of poetry, lyrical poetry - such as that of Yeats and Shelley, than by readers of the "hard-boiled" school of travel writing epitomized in V.S. Naipaul's works. If you believe that poetry is the deepest sort of writing, that one can get to "know" a society or people better through a Romantic relationship with a member of that society than by doing a Sociological study of it, if your dream life is as important to you as waking life, in short, if you have a poetic nature: This is the book for you!
"Everyone falls in love with what he cannot begin to understand."--Or, as Pico finds out, thinks he cannot, but through patience and love finds that he can...begin.
PS-Pico and Sachiko are still together, according to wikipedia at any event.
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Mounika Panthala
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome book
Reviewed in India on 19 May 2021
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It feels like you are in Japan and witnessing with your eyes everything described by the author. It is deep and dark at some parts. Worth reading more than once.
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D. R. Ransdell
5.0 out of 5 stars Invitation to Adventure
Reviewed in the United States on 11 January 2013
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This beautiful book sold me on both Iyer and Japan. In this thoughtful volume, Iyer details his perplexing and wonderful experiences as he attempted to understand another culture. The process is not so easy! But I love Iyer's narrative. He set out to Japan to clear his head, to think, to be alone. Then reality hit, and his year turned into something completely different.
People who chose to study or live abroad are either quite brave or quite naive. Their experiences can send them to heights of pleasure and back to their own drawing boards. Iyer's frank explanation of both successes and failures in his new culture make this book a special treasure. I was enthralled while reading every page.
Although I had already been to Japan when I found this book, now I can't wait to return, not to mimic Iyer's adventure, which would be impossible, but to appreciate even more of his observations and difficulties.
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5.0 out of 5 stars loved it
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 19 December 2013
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I've been to Japan several times and could identify with most of his experiences. Well written and, as with all his books, working on a number of levels. Very enjoyable.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in India on 3 May 2017
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The perfect guide to an enchanting city by the peerless Pico.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 25 April 2018
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Great book by one of my favourite writers ever
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Juvy & Grace
5.0 out of 5 stars Deep immersion in Kyoto cuture
Reviewed in the United States on 9 December 2012
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Pico Iyer writes so well. His images are fitting and so graphic, yet his touch is very refined. His treatment of his relationship with a married Japanese woman reveals the Japanese culture of the 1980's (much of which carries over to today) and draws the reader into caring about these people. The way the communications are carried between people is so different than what the American direct style. It gives a lot to consider in the way we relate with others, It is not primarily a spiritual book, but way more than a travel book.
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Dave Schwinghammer
4.0 out of 5 stars Gender wars!
Reviewed in the United States on 16 July 2004
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The title of this book is a bit misleading. Yes, Pico Iyer does live in a monastery for a few days but his main emphasis is an exploration of Kyoto, one of the holiest cities in Japan.
The title comes from a Buddhist story about a beautiful woman who tempted a monk, much as Buddha was tempted by an evil god as he sat under the Bodhi tree searching for enlightenment.
Pico is an essayist for Time magazine and he is far more interested in the somewhat schizophrenic nature of the Japanese people than he is in Buddhism. His main subject is a housewife named Sachiko who is married to a Japanese "salary man," who works from six in the morning until eleven at night. His family life is an afterthought. Sachiko loves everything foreign from the Beatles to Mickey Mouse. She calls Pico a "bird" because he is free to wander all over the globe while she is a slave to her husband and two young children.
According to Iyer, Japan is close to a utopian society and Kyoto is the cleanest city he's ever seen. Sachiko is a fascinating character. When she introduces Pico to her children she apologizes for their misbehavior although they are much more well-behaved than western children Pico has known.
Pico and Sachiko's relationship is perplexing at first. She hints that she might want something more than a platonic relationship. He's wise enough to know that it's the dream of a romance, the romance she's seen in the movies, that she's after.
There are some wonderful moments in THE LADY AND THE MONK: Sachiko's mangled English with the occasional Japanese word thrown in and the lack of articles; Iyer's description of cherry blossom time; the albino monk Pico meets when he stays at the temple; the Hanchu Tigers last game of the year when Randy Bass, their American homerun hitter, bows to the fans fifteen times. The fans are just as enthusiastic as they would be if this were a World Series team and not a team thirty-some games out of first.
The main emphasis of the book, though, is Sachiko's story arc; we see her beginning to grow away from her salaryman husband, we see her trying to make her dreams become a reality, despite the censure of her mother and friends. We get the impression that the more Japanese women are exposed to the West the more Sachikos there will be.
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Shanu Jain
1.0 out of 5 stars Not worth the cost
Reviewed in India on 25 January 2021
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The print was bad
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Arnout
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful personal experience of a foreigner in Japan
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 22 January 2020
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Spiritual and down to earth at the same time.
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4.0 out of 5 stars As expected
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 March 2020
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Used but adequate
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JA
3.0 out of 5 stars Adore writer!
Reviewed in the United States on 6 January 2020
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Difficult book to get into! After 75 pages, put it down. Have read several other books by this author which I adored. This one seemed boring! Gave it to the library for someone else to tackle!
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J. Henderson
2.0 out of 5 stars This is a weird book by a weird guy
Reviewed in Canada on 14 April 2021
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It's overwrought and self-indulgent. A love story but not a very sympathetic one. Very mixed feelings.
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rrs2
5.0 out of 5 stars pico is haiku for done been that there
Reviewed in the United States on 25 May 2025
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Every chapter is contemplative prayer with Kyoto as the sacred word
Every Western and Eastern bias exposed without apology but with piquancy
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Christopher H Naylor
5.0 out of 5 stars Going to Japan?
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 August 2023
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You need this.
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groundie
3.0 out of 5 stars Very personal account of one year in Kyoto
Reviewed in the United States on 10 November 2012
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This is my first book by Iyer. As travel books go, I still prefer John Gimlette in terms of style and content. Iyer's is a very personal account of his one year spent in Kyoto. He spends quite a bit of time roaming the streets and temples, seeking just what I am not sure. Perhaps enlightenment or simply some material for a book such as this one.
The real meat of the book is his encounters with a young married woman with two small kids. It is certainly a clash or mash of cultures and respective fascination and infatuation. You will in no uncertain terms get Iyer's perspectives and analyses.
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pnn
4.0 out of 5 stars Atmospheric memoir
Reviewed in the United States on 18 August 2019
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Enjoyed this book. Loved the descriptions of modern Kyoto life against the backdrop of this deeply historical setting. Pivot Iyer is a very evocative writer and this book is a must read for his fans and anyone interested in a westerner’s experience of life in Kyoto and experimentation with Zen Buddhism.
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Judy Hayes
4.0 out of 5 stars Love, Kyoto style
Reviewed in the United States on 28 March 2017
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An intimate look at a deep relationship one can have with Japan without zen. This book is really about the author falling in love with a Japanese woman while living in Kyoto as a foreigner. This heightened his appreciation of the country he was in the process of adopting, seemingly unconsciously.
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Michele Wucker, Author of YOU ARE WHAT YOU RISK andTHE GRAY RHINO
5.0 out of 5 stars ... before my first trip to Japan in 2008 and liked it enough that I broke my rule of trying ...
Reviewed in the United States on 12 September 2016
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I read Lady and the Monk before my first trip to Japan in 2008 and liked it enough that I broke my rule of trying to find new homes for non-work books in hopes of keeping my shelves to a dull roar. I just booked another trip and am glad I kept it because I'm going to give it a re-read.
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saunabear
5.0 out of 5 stars Great insight into the teachings of ZEN
Reviewed in the United States on 8 July 2018
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Great insight into the teachings of ZEN. And also the real-life everyday social & cultural expectations of Japanese women, and their sensitivities and inner struggles with personal friendships/companionships. A Great read. Lots of colorful histories of Japanese temples and also highlights of the city of KYOTO culture. 5-STARS!
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Linda Austin - MoonbridgeBooks
2.0 out of 5 stars Another foreigner writes about Japan
Reviewed in the United States on 1 August 2020
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I am not a fan of gaijin, men in particular, writing about their experience with Japanese culture and Japanese people and making judgements. Sachiko was the best part of this book, an interesting story of a child-woman trying to escape her constricted life. Otherwise, did the author really study Zen there? Iyer writes evocatively and makes some astute observations, but he does go on and on. Our Japanese book club read this and we did not particularly like it for the same reasons.
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tolarjev
5.0 out of 5 stars RIveting & Timely
Reviewed in the United States on 16 November 2014
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Kept me glued. Good warning that the kindest and seemingly most spiritually advanced persons might be predators. These days, hearing the stories that are in the news about Bill Cosby and others, I think of this book. Who would suspect Dr. Huxtable? Who would suspect a modest seeming Japanese monk?
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wendy g
5.0 out of 5 stars The outsider as cultural observer
Reviewed in the United States on 28 August 2015
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Very insightful, without being overly simplistic. The complex relationship of a modern Japan and the traditions of Kyoto. As the title indicates, the focus is on appearances and contradictions in gender roles, the true meaning of Zen and the transformation of Japanese society. Nicely written.
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cilyone
4.0 out of 5 stars Well written
Reviewed in the United States on 15 May 2016
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It was very well written and I believe depicts the life of a geisha very well.
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jeanlucgodard
3.0 out of 5 stars He can do better
Reviewed in the United States on 31 August 2020
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A little disappointing and slow moving; the author can and has done a lot better! Not a good first read of his.
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Miamian
5.0 out of 5 stars Very enjoyable
Reviewed in the United States on 19 August 2017
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First time reading anything from this Author and I enjoyed it thoroughly as I recently came back from a trip to Japan. And helped me understand much of what I saw and felt.
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Fran
5.0 out of 5 stars Japan under the Surface
Reviewed in the United States on 19 April 2020
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Iyer explores the tourist destinations that the Japanese themselves go to see and goes deep under their surface for meanings.
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Theresa E
2.0 out of 5 stars Not so much.....
Reviewed in the United States on 8 October 2013
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Bought two Pico Iyer books after reading the reviews on Amazon; I love auto biographies. Pico's a disappointment. The story is uninspiring, drifts from moment to moment without cohesiveness, just BORING. And yet I continue to read it, waiting for a transformation that will match the oh-so-many reviewers who raved about this book.
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cheri
5.0 out of 5 stars Japan visitor
Reviewed in the United States on 19 March 2014
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Inconsistent in parts but lovely insightful writing that gives a very intimate picture of his first year in Japan. It thoughtfully engages in the stereotypes, both of the Japanese and Gaijin, without indulging them. Highly evocative.
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omgcabose
5.0 out of 5 stars True Love
Reviewed in the United States on 13 December 2012
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This book...was so adorable in a sense. You see character transformation from order /ordinary life, to how love can make everything look so beautiful. This story is very cute and I will read it again when I find the time.
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Patricia
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
Reviewed in the United States on 7 August 2014
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Beautiful descriptions of Japan, its culture and natural settings there. Little story line, but still well worth reading.
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Rick Darke
5.0 out of 5 stars an authentic essay on the changing nature of japan
Reviewed in the United States on 12 October 2004
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This is Iyer's most lyrical, heartfelt work. More than a bit autobiographical, the book is rich with rhythms and cadences that conjure up Kyoto as it is: a complex, chaotic mix of old and new. Work and play have taken me to Japan many times, and to Kyoto in all seasons. This book remains among my modern favorites on Japanese culture, for the ways it captures the quirky little things so often "lost in translation."
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Haidongqing
2.0 out of 5 stars This book is very used!
Reviewed in the United States on 7 January 2014
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The content is okay since seldom westerns were able to interpret the Oriental well.The cover is totally wore out and the paper turned yellow.
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donquixote
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Reviewed in the United States on 19 July 2014
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OK
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Ronda Fleck
2.0 out of 5 stars Just a bit boring
Reviewed in the United States on 27 April 2013
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It started off pretty well but the protagonist became self absorbed and boring. Not as typical of Japanese life as depicted.
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J.M.C.
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
Reviewed in the United States on 7 March 2016
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Fascinating but needs a good edit.
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Manuel Arce Riocabo
2.0 out of 5 stars Boring
Reviewed in the United States on 27 June 2020
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Slow and tedious.
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CAPTAIN
1.0 out of 5 stars Book in BAD Condition
Reviewed in the United States on 11 December 2021
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It looks as though someone dropped a cup of liquid on this book.
So disappointed
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《여인과 승려: 교토의 사계》
The Lady and the Monk: Four Seasons in Kyoto — 피코 아이어(Pico Iyer), 1991년
약 1,000단어 요약·평론
저자: 피코 아이어(Pico Iyer, 1957~)
초판: 1991년, Alfred A. Knopf
분량: 약 350쪽
배경: 1987년부터의 일본 교토
주제: 선불교, 일본문화, 사랑, 여성의 자유, 동서양의 만남, 영적 성장
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《여인과 승려》는 피코 아이어의 대표적인 여행문학 작품이자 그의 인생을 근본적으로 변화시킨 경험을 기록한 자전적 에세이다.
1987년, 당시 서른 살이었던 아이어는 미국 뉴욕의 바쁜 생활을 떠나 일본 교토로 향한다.
그는 이미 성공적인 여행작가였으며 《Time》의 기자로 활동하고 있었다.
그러나 그는 현대사회의 빠른 속도와 끊임없는 활동에서 벗어나고 싶었다.
일본의 선불교 사찰에서 생활하면서 침묵과 명상을 배우고, 전통적인 일본문화의 내면을 이해하려는 것이 그의 목적이었다.
하지만 예상하지 못한 사건이 발생한다.
교토에서 일본인 여성 사치코(Sachiko)를 만나게 된 것이다.
사치코는 결혼한 여성이었으며 두 아이의 어머니였다.
그녀의 남편은 일본의 전형적인 회사원으로 밤늦게까지 일했다.
사치코는 지적 호기심이 풍부하고 활기찬 사람이었지만, 결혼생활과 사회적 관습 속에서 자신의 가능성을 충분히 실현하지 못하고 있었다.
아이어와 사치코의 만남은 두 사람 모두에게 새로운 삶의 가능성을 열어준다.
따라서 이 책은 단순한 일본 여행기가 아니다.
그것은 동서양의 문화적 만남, 선불교의 영성, 여성의 자유, 사랑과 자기 발견이 결합된 작품이다.
여기서 한 가지 중요한 사실을 먼저 밝혀둘 필요가 있다.
책에 등장하는 사치코는 가명이며 실제 이름은 히로코(Hiroko)다. 그녀는 이후 아이어의 아내가 되었고, 두 사람은 오랫동안 일본 나라현에서 함께 생활했다.
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아이어가 교토를 선택한 이유는 일본의 전통문화와 선불교에 대한 관심 때문이었다.
당시 일본은 세계적인 경제강국으로 성장하고 있었다.
서구 언론은 일본의 기업과 기술, 생산성에 주목했다.
그러나 아이어는 경제대국 일본의 모습보다 그 이면에 존재하는 전통적이고 정신적인 일본에 관심을 가졌다.
그는 교토의 사찰과 정원, 전통적인 거리와 계절의 변화를 관찰했다.
교토는 일본의 옛 수도였으며 불교와 전통문화의 중심지였다.
아이어에게 교토는 현대적인 경제생활과 오래된 종교적 전통이 공존하는 장소였다.
그는 이러한 환경에서 서구적 사고방식과 다른 삶의 가능성을 발견하려 했다.
특히 선불교의 침묵과 명상, 단순한 생활에 매력을 느꼈다.
그에게 일본은 자신이 익숙하게 살아온 서구적 생활방식을 다시 생각하게 만드는 장소였다.
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아이어가 선불교에 관심을 가진 이유는 자신의 지적 성향과 깊이 관계된다.
그는 영국의 옥스퍼드대학교와 미국 하버드대학교에서 공부한 지식인이었다.
따라서 분석과 논증, 추상적인 사고에 익숙했다.
그러나 그는 지나치게 많은 생각이 때로는 인간을 진실에서 멀어지게 한다고 느꼈다.
선불교는 이러한 지적 습관에 도전했다.
선불교는 단순히 세상을 설명하는 데 그치지 않고 직접적인 경험과 실천을 강조한다.
아이어는 선불교의 이러한 특징에 깊은 관심을 갖는다.
그가 불교 전문지 《Tricycle》에 공개한 책의 발췌문에서 강조하는 것도 바로 이 점이다.
사랑과 신앙처럼 중요한 경험은 반드시 논리적인 사고를 통해서만 얻어지는 것이 아니라는 것이다.
그에게 선불교는 사고를 부정하는 것이 아니라 사고의 한계를 인식하게 하는 수행이었다.
그러나 실제 수도생활은 그가 상상했던 것처럼 낭만적이지 않았다.
엄격한 규율과 반복적인 노동, 긴 시간의 명상은 상당한 인내와 훈련을 요구했다.
그는 선불교가 단순히 마음을 편안하게 만드는 기술이 아니라 자신의 삶 전체를 변화시키려는 실천이라는 사실을 깨닫는다.
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이 책에서 가장 중요한 인물은 사치코다.
그녀는 전통적인 일본문화와 서구적인 대중문화에 모두 관심을 갖고 있었다.
다도와 고전문학을 이해하면서도 서구의 음악과 문학, 영화에 열정적인 관심을 보였다.
그녀는 지적 호기심이 풍부했지만 일본의 전통적인 성역할 속에서 자신의 삶이 제한되어 있다고 느꼈다.
남편은 직장생활에 몰두했고 그녀는 가정과 아이들을 돌보는 역할을 맡았다.
아이어는 사치코를 통해 일본 사회의 다른 모습을 발견한다.
그가 처음 찾아온 일본은 사찰과 정원, 선불교의 침묵으로 상징되는 전통적인 일본이었다.
그러나 사치코가 보여준 일본은 개인의 욕망과 불만, 꿈과 갈등이 존재하는 현실적인 사회였다.
그녀는 전통적인 역할에 순응하는 일본 여성이라는 고정관념을 깨뜨린다.
사치코는 자신의 삶을 새롭게 결정하려는 욕망을 가진 독립적인 인간으로 나타난다.
아이어와의 관계를 통해 그녀는 새로운 세계를 경험하고 자신의 가능성을 발견한다.
그러나 이러한 관계는 단순한 사랑 이야기가 아니다.
그것은 일본의 성별 규범과 개인의 자유 사이의 갈등을 보여준다.
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아이어와 사치코는 서로 다른 문화적 배경을 가진 사람들이다.
그들은 서로에게 매력을 느끼지만 문화적 차이 때문에 오해를 경험하기도 한다.
아이어는 일본 사회의 간접적인 의사소통 방식과 정서적 표현을 이해하는 데 어려움을 겪는다.
반면 사치코는 서구적인 개인주의와 자유로운 생활방식에 관심을 갖는다.
그들의 관계는 동양과 서양의 만남을 상징한다.
그러나 아이어는 두 문화를 단순하게 대립시키지 않는다.
사치코는 전통적인 일본인이면서 동시에 현대적인 세계시민이기도 하다.
아이어 역시 서구적인 지식인이지만 아시아의 종교와 문화에 깊이 매력을 느낀다.
두 사람은 서로의 문화적 정체성을 완전히 버리지 않으면서 새로운 관계를 형성한다.
이러한 만남을 통해 아이어는 문화적 이해가 단순히 책을 읽거나 사찰을 방문하는 것만으로 이루어지지 않는다는 사실을 깨닫는다.
다른 문화를 진정으로 이해하려면 그 문화 속에서 살아가는 사람들과 실제적인 관계를 맺어야 한다.
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사치코는 아이어와의 관계를 통해 자신의 삶을 다시 생각하기 시작한다.
그녀는 전통적인 결혼생활을 계속하는 것이 자신에게 어떤 의미를 갖는지 질문한다.
결국 그녀는 남편과의 관계에서 벗어나 새로운 삶을 준비한다.
여행 안내원으로 일하기 위한 훈련을 받는 것도 그 과정의 일부다.
책은 사치코가 처음으로 아시아 밖의 세계를 여행하는 장면으로 마무리된다.
아이어와 함께 호주 시드니를 방문한 사치코는 이전에 경험하지 못했던 자유를 느낀다.
이 장면은 그녀가 새로운 인생의 출발점에 서 있음을 상징한다.
흥미롭게도 이 여행의 목적지는 호주다.
사치코에게 호주는 일본 사회의 익숙한 규범에서 벗어나 자신의 가능성을 시험하는 공간이 된다.
그러나 이러한 변화에는 복잡한 윤리적 문제가 존재한다.
사치코는 결혼한 여성이며 두 자녀의 어머니였다.
따라서 그녀가 새로운 삶을 선택하는 것은 개인적 자유뿐 아니라 가족관계와 책임의 문제도 제기한다.
아이어는 이러한 복잡성을 완전히 해결하려 하지 않는다.
오히려 서로 다른 가치와 책임 사이에서 인간이 경험하는 갈등을 보여준다.
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책의 부제인 '교토의 사계'는 단순한 시간적 배경이 아니다.
일본의 계절 변화는 인간의 삶과 감정의 변화를 상징한다.
봄에는 새로운 가능성이 열린다.
여름에는 관계와 경험이 더욱 깊어진다.
가을에는 변화와 상실의 가능성이 나타난다.
겨울에는 성찰과 새로운 출발을 위한 준비가 이루어진다.
이러한 계절적 구조는 일본의 전통적인 미학과 연결된다.
특히 모든 것이 변화한다는 불교의 무상관이 중요한 배경을 이룬다.
아이어는 교토의 자연과 사찰을 관찰하면서 삶의 변화가 불가피하다는 사실을 깨닫는다.
그러나 이 책에서 변화는 자연의 계절에만 나타나는 것이 아니다.
그의 인간관계와 가치관에서도 변화가 일어난다.
그는 선불교를 배우러 일본에 왔지만 결국 사랑과 인간관계를 통해 더욱 깊은 배움을 얻는다.
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이 책의 가장 흥미로운 특징은 제목에 나타나는 역설이다.
'승려'는 아이어 자신을 가리킨다.
그러나 그는 실제로 출가한 승려가 아니다.
그는 수도생활을 경험하고자 일본에 온 외국인 지식인이다.
반면 '여인'은 사치코를 가리킨다.
그녀는 전통적인 일본 여성의 역할 속에서 살아왔지만 자신의 자유를 추구한다.
두 사람은 서로 반대 방향으로 움직이는 것처럼 보인다.
아이어는 세속적인 삶에서 벗어나 영적인 세계를 찾는다.
사치코는 제한된 가정생활에서 벗어나 더 넓은 세속적인 세계로 나아가려 한다.
그러나 이들의 만남은 양쪽 모두를 변화시킨다.
아이어는 인간관계 속에서 영적인 진실을 발견한다.
사치코는 새로운 관계를 통해 자신의 삶을 다시 선택할 가능성을 발견한다.
이러한 점에서 이 책은 단순한 사랑 이야기가 아니라 인간의 자유와 영적 성숙에 관한 작품이다.
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이 책에는 비판적으로 검토해야 할 부분도 있다.
첫째, 일본 여성이 서구 남성과의 만남을 통해 자유를 발견한다는 이야기 구조다.
이러한 구조는 서구 여행문학에서 반복적으로 나타나온 문제와 연결된다.
서구 남성이 동양의 문화를 발견하고 동시에 동양 여성의 삶을 변화시키는 인물로 묘사될 위험이 있다.
물론 아이어는 사치코를 수동적인 인물로만 묘사하지 않는다.
그녀는 자신의 욕망과 지적 능력을 가진 독립적인 인물이다.
그러나 책 전체가 아이어의 관점에서 서술된다는 사실은 중요하다.
독자는 사치코의 경험을 대부분 아이어의 해석을 통해 이해하게 된다.
따라서 그녀 자신의 목소리가 얼마나 충분히 반영되었는지 질문할 필요가 있다.
둘째, 일본문화의 이상화 문제다.
아이어는 일본의 전통적인 미학과 종교에 깊은 매력을 느낀다.
그러나 이러한 매력은 일본 사회의 실제적인 불평등과 갈등을 충분히 드러내지 못할 위험이 있다.
특히 여성의 사회적 지위와 가족제도, 노동시장의 성별 불평등을 이해하려면 더욱 체계적인 사회학적 분석이 필요하다.
셋째, 사랑과 윤리적 책임의 문제다.
사치코와 아이어의 관계는 두 사람의 삶을 변화시켰지만 기존 가족관계에 영향을 미쳤다.
따라서 개인의 자유를 긍정적으로 평가하면서도 그 선택이 다른 사람들에게 미친 영향을 함께 고려해야 한다.
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《여인과 승려》는 피코 아이어의 초기 저술 가운데 가장 중요한 작품 중 하나다.
이 책에서 그는 일본의 선불교와 전통문화를 이해하려 하지만 결국 인간관계 속에서 더욱 깊은 진실을 발견한다.
그가 처음 일본에 왔을 때 기대했던 것은 고요함과 명상을 통한 영적 성장이다.
그러나 실제로 그의 삶을 변화시킨 것은 사치코와의 만남이었다.
이 경험은 그의 후기 사상에도 중요한 영향을 미쳤다고 볼 수 있다.
《The Art of Stillness》와 《Aflame》에서 그는 침묵과 고요함을 강조한다.
그러나 그 침묵의 목적은 인간관계를 포기하는 것이 아니라 타인과 더욱 깊이 연결되는 데 있다.
이러한 사상의 출발점을 《여인과 승려》에서 발견할 수 있다.
아이어는 교토에서 선불교를 배우려 했지만 사랑을 통해 인간의 복잡성과 불완전성을 더욱 깊이 이해하게 되었다.
그 결과 그는 영성을 일상적인 인간관계와 분리할 수 없다는 사실을 경험했다.
이 책의 핵심 메시지는 다음과 같이 정리할 수 있다.
인간은 고독과 침묵을 통해 자신을 발견할 수 있지만, 때로는 다른 사람과의 만남을 통해서만 자신이 누구인지를 진정으로 알게 된다.
이러한 점에서 《여인과 승려》는 여행문학이면서 사랑 이야기이며, 동시에 영적 성장에 관한 회고록이다.
특히 2019년에 출간된 《Autumn Light》와 함께 읽으면 더욱 깊은 의미를 갖는다.
《여인과 승려》가 사랑의 시작을 이야기한다면, 《Autumn Light》는 수십 년 동안 지속된 사랑이 노화와 죽음, 가족 돌봄의 현실 속에서 어떻게 변화하는지 보여준다.
두 책은 피코 아이어의 삶에서 사랑과 영성이 어떻게 서로 연결되어 왔는지를 보여주는 한 쌍의 작품이라고 평가할 수 있다.
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